When we fall in love, we automatically give the other person the power to hurt us. Anyone can hurt us, but the wound is especially greater if it’s done to us by someone we love.
I can still remember what it used to be like when I was in a relationship and I was dependent on my partner, emotionally. I needed him to validate my feelings, acknowledge my emotions, and make me happy. I remember what it felt like to be at his mercy. It was my own fault, because I gave him so much power over me. When we broke up, I was struggling to get used to my old self again. I started to rely on myself more for my own happiness.
It’s a great feeling to break free from the power someone has over you. It’s really liberating. Imagine all those times when you would cry over something he said, when you would spend the rest of your day miserable because you had a fight, or what about those times when you let him dictate how you would act? Imagine how it felt like depending your happiness on him. Did it feel good? It made you feel pathetic and alone and trapped, right? When we give our partners power to hurt us, we give them this because of our connection to them. We, in turn, have the power to hurt them too, but we don’t do it because we love them.
Sometimes we hurt the ones we love without meaning to, unintentionally. But this is what love’s all about, right? It’s all part of the package. What we can do is to increase our own self worth, so when the person we love hurts us, it’s easier to get back up and heal. Working towards breaking free of the negative aspects of a relationship is always good advice. And that includes breaking free from harmful energies and things that a relationship is giving you. You owe it to yourself.
I can still remember what it used to be like when I was in a relationship and I was dependent on my partner, emotionally. I needed him to validate my feelings, acknowledge my emotions, and make me happy. I remember what it felt like to be at his mercy. It was my own fault, because I gave him so much power over me. When we broke up, I was struggling to get used to my old self again. I started to rely on myself more for my own happiness.
Sometimes we hurt the ones we love without meaning to, unintentionally. But this is what love’s all about, right? It’s all part of the package. What we can do is to increase our own self worth, so when the person we love hurts us, it’s easier to get back up and heal. Working towards breaking free of the negative aspects of a relationship is always good advice. And that includes breaking free from harmful energies and things that a relationship is giving you. You owe it to yourself.
