He Broke Her Heart

Boy: I broke up with her.
His Best Friend: What happened?
Boy: She’s just too much for me.
His Best Friend: What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?
Boy: Well, for one.. She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed! So insecure..
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see..
Boy: Oh.. Well.. She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see..

Boy: But.. Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see..
Boy: I.. Well! You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her.
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see..
Boy: Well, she..
His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?
Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?
His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened..

Breaking Free

When we fall in love, we automatically give the other person the power to hurt us. Anyone can hurt us, but the wound is especially greater if it’s done to us by someone we love.
I can still remember what it used to be like when I was in a relationship and I was dependent on my partner, emotionally. I needed him to validate my feelings, acknowledge my emotions, and make me happy. I remember what it felt like to be at his mercy. It was my own fault, because I gave him so much power over me. When we broke up, I was struggling to get used to my old self again. I started to rely on myself more for my own happiness.

It’s a great feeling to break free from the power someone has over you. It’s really liberating. Imagine all those times when you would cry over something he said, when you would spend the rest of your day miserable because you had a fight, or what about those times when you let him dictate how you would act? Imagine how it felt like depending your happiness on him. Did it feel good? It made you feel pathetic and alone and trapped, right? When we give our partners power to hurt us, we give them this because of our connection to them. We, in turn, have the power to hurt them too, but we don’t do it because we love them.
Sometimes we hurt the ones we love without meaning to, unintentionally. But this is what love’s all about, right? It’s all part of the package. What we can do is to increase our own self worth, so when the person we love hurts us, it’s easier to get back up and heal. Working towards breaking free of the negative aspects of a relationship is always good advice. And that includes breaking free from harmful energies and things that a relationship is giving you. You owe it to yourself.

Scared to Lose You

Beautiful Memory

I remember how it was when I first fell in love. It was such an intense kind of love that I almost died trying to get over it. What we had was beyond words, it was real love. I thought I wouldn’t be able to experience that kind of love again. But then I met him, and he reminded me of what it felt to like someone again. With him, I was able to feel again. I got to experience the sweetness of love, hand holding, kissing, a walk along the beach, romantic stargazing. It wasn’t enough for me to call it love, but it made me realize that yes, it IS possible to fall in love again.

And I’m not giving up hope. I believe that someone is out there for me. I believe I will fall in love again. Maybe not the kind of love I felt before, but surely, I could get closer. I need to believe that it will happen again for me. Some say you only experience a love like that once in a lifetime. I don’t know whether it’s true or not. But I’m not losing hope. What happened between us was something special. It was short-lived, but it made me so happy. I got to experience what I’ve never experienced before. And it will always remain a beautiful memory I will forever cherish

Hurt Is Inevitable

“No matter what, once in your life, someone will hurt you. That someone will take all that you are, and rip it into pieces and they won’t even watch where the pieces land

But through the breakdown, you’ll learn that you’re strong, and no matter how hard they destroy you, that you can conquer anything.”